Honor Your Anger: How Transforming Your Anger Style Can Change Your Life - Hardcover

"A critical first step for people who have trouble getting in touch with their anger and expressing it in direct and appropriate ways."
–Virginia Williams, Ph.D., coauthor of Anger Kills and LifeSkills

Steven uses his anger to control others.Whenever things don’t go his way, he explodes and everyone gives in to him.

Tara has used food to avoid her feelings for so long that she doesn’t know when she is angry.

Marcie is afraid of her own anger and is always afraid others are going to get angry with her.

Rebecca never seems to get angry, but she has her own sneaky ways of getting back at others.

Do any of these people sound familiar? Do any of them sound like you? When we refuse to own our anger, or lack healthy ways of releasing it, anger can express itself in inappropriate, counterproductive ways. In this provocative, prescriptive book, noted author and psychotherapist Beverly Engel shows you how to change all that, guiding you to positive new ways to express your anger and transforming what was once a destructive force into a catalyst for positive change.

PRAISE FOR BEVERLY ENGEL’S OTHER BOOKS

for The Emotionally Abusive Relationship

"A good, solid treatment of an insidious but all-too-common type of relationship in which the weapons are words and moods rather than the fist, but which do just as much damage. Most importantly, Ms. Engel doesn’t just describe–she shows us the way out."
–Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of Emotional Blackmail

for Loving Him without Losing You

"A powerful and practical guide. . .that every woman should read."
–Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D., author of Secrets About Life Every Woman Should Know and Are You the One for Me?

When most people think of someone having a problem with anger, they think the person has a "bad temper" or is unable to control his or her anger. But there are many other unhealthy ways of dealing with anger, including being afraid to express your anger, expressing your anger in underhanded ways, and allowing others to act out your anger for you. This fascinating book presents a proven, step-by-step process that will help you to discover your "anger style," identify its impact on your life, and learn to use your anger as a force for positive change. In Honor Your Anger you’ll learn how to create a new anger style that is healthy and life-transforming.

Sharing inspiring, real-life stories and positive action steps, Engel not only guides you step by step through the process of discovering your primary and secondary anger styles but provides the practical advice and emotional support you’ll need to:

• Modify or transform an aggressive anger style
• Turn passivity into assertiveness
• Recognize and modify passive-aggressive behavior
• Transform a projective-aggressive style
• Deal with other people’s anger
• Move beyond anger

Whether you’re prone to sudden violent outbursts, overeating motivated by suppressed anger, holding grudges, fear of your own anger, taking out your anger on those weaker than you, or any other destructive anger style, this straightforward and reader-friendly book can help. Honoring your anger can be one of the most important and liberating changes of your life.